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It's so easy. We all do from time to time. We love
so much. We just want to protect our children from something
could harm them. How can we reach our arms and gather in
We have in their jobs for them so they can enjoy a little '
more moments of the game. But these decisions carry consequences.
If you protect your children or do what they can do
Your children will be overly dependent. Worse
They do not challenge or to develop,Trust.
Learning autonomy and independence comes soon. But
not happen without your help. It is necessary to support 's
Children and teaches them to be independent. This article
You will learn to promote the independence of your children ";
how and when to leave things alone, what to do
if they need help and what to do if something goes wrong.
Let's Meet Julie
Julie is six years. She is timid and indecisiveand
are close friends. Teacher Julie, Mrs. Sterling,
Often companies have Julie in the school and gives more
Help. Mrs. Sterling Never mind. Julie is a quiet and
well-bred girl.
Then, on a parent-teacher meetings, called Mrs. Sterling
Julie the behavior of their parents. It was not always so,
Say. Julie was a wild child and taken everything. To
At that time, Julie's parents were so worried about their safety
thoughtJulie in his garage, put up gates in the entire
Home and even at times put a leash. For their safety,
added.
Finally, Julie grew out of her wandering and has become one
polite girl. But maybe we exaggerated, Julie's say
Parents. Now you nothing for your interest
own. Just waiting for us to recommend them.
Mrs. Sterling proposes that give a light Julie
a job - something to reach easily. Perhaps
Julie avoid thinking that they are responsible and have already
permission to do a good job on their own. The parents of Julie
agree.
In a few weeks, says the lady who looks Julie Sterling
less help and spend time with others
Children. Then one day in a fit of pride, says Mrs. Julie
Sterling is the right way to empty the dishwasher and put away
dishes. Ms Julie Sterling Thanks for the lesson and
smiles and runs off like Julie, playing with their newFriends.
Now to how to teach your children
Independence, confidence and joy of trust.
Promotion
Parents need their children in their natural support
Search for independence. A good way to do this is with
Tasks. Most children are in a hurry to grow, to support
around the house, it teaches responsibility and show
they can make a difference with their actions.
But be careful.Your child can sense if you're interested
their capabilities. Let them know that there is a great help for
are involved and their jobs are able to manage.
If you are worried about their safety or performance
to another job.
Allowances
Children who are allowed to develop, things to do on their own
Trust. Soon, leaving the child alone for small
Periods. You will learn that they are safe, and can do things that
same without youRoom. Then learn friendships
to deal with different situations. Housework, hobbies and
Homework to develop independence. Here are some ways to
to help your children on their own success.
Model of independence or in their behavior.
O Show step by step how a project is finished.
Or make sure they know the target, so they go in the right
Direction.
Make or fun project! Time. Take it back. Dance.
Make a game of it.
Or SetDeadlines for a project, but let your children
fill in their own way.
Or leave the job in some parts, so that every time they succeed,
are working.
Or you can leave them. Let your children try things their way and
learn from their mistakes.
o If you forget to do a job for them
Consequences, but not the job for them.
Support
Knowing when to intervene and help your child with a project
can be difficult. Here are some guidelines are observed, but
like your children to solve problems and help
accordingly.
O How to support children, if their approach
dangerous, unhealthy or destructive.
o In general, make yourself available to assist, promote, but
work with them to take any lacerations on his own.
o If you are stressed in the passage, what works and then
Tips on how to better examine the work, or arrangements, while the function
together.
o If the job is done quite well ... abandonedsufficient alone.
Perfection is not the goal. Unless, of course, must work
corrected for a good reason to congratulate you on your children
their efforts. And the praise often.
Learning from mistakes
Part of autonomy means learning from mistakes. Here are
some tips to help your kids go when things
wrong.
O Tell them everyone makes mistakes.
Or tell them that the effort that counts.
Or tell them, love them, no matter what.
OrRemember what he has done well.
Or ask them how they could have done differently.
Or encourage them to do the job with their new approach.
Protect your children from the dangers is crucial, but it is also
be allowed to explore the life and
or not. Thus, they learn confidence. In
In the long run if children are taught, they lack the independence
Confidence in themselves - and that is very difficult to learn after
on.
PromotionTheir independence of children. He will teach how to
Things for itself and for support as they learn. Maybe
one of the greatest gifts you can teach your children is to
learn from their mistakes and their lives with the filling
Trust and confidence needed to succeed.
